Eidulfitri

Bismi-llahi ar-ra?mani ar-ra?imi, In the name of God, Most Gracious, Most Merciful. And I beg for forgiveness from Allah for whatever sin that I have done in the past and to show me the right path. Ameen.

Assalamualaikum / Greetings dear readers.

Today the focus is on Eidulfitri and visits to the graveyard on the morning of Eidulfitri.

Firstly the correct way of pronounciation is Eid-ul-Fitri, not AildilFitri. Eid (like the arabic letter "ain") means festivity whereas Aid(il) serves no meaning. Fitr comes from the word Fitrah, which means nature. By fasting for 30 days and arriving on Eidulfitri, our body is clean and our sins are washed away. This is what it means by fitr, which is the PURE STATE of our souls like when we were first born.

On morning of Eidulfitri, most muslim males go to the mosque to carry out a SUNNAH prayer. After which they start to disperse around to their family's houses, mainly the grandmom/dad father/mother 's house. However, there are some ppl who go around to houses other than the closest family members or relatives. It is not wrong, just that sometimes we may disturb the togetherness of a family. Maybe they did not have much time before this to gather around and have such a joyous family occassion, so maybe we may be disturbing them.

However, the most important issue is about visiting the graveyards in the morning. Maybe our parents/grandparents had passes away and since it's the end of Ramadhan, we may want to pay them a visit as a form of rememberance and respect. This is good actually, but however, the situation in Singapore is quite bad. The families come in buses or lorries, bringing in everyone. Some dressed decently, while others dress in an acceptable manner. However there are some who dresses up in new clothes that expose their adornments (aurat). To add to that, the mood that they present at the graveyard is changed to joyous and festive mood. Making a lot of noise, turning up the volumes of speakers maybe.

Bear in mind that the graveyard is a place where the deceased are seated in. It is a place to be sad. We should wear all white or black, not too colourful, as a sign of showing decency and respect. The deceased can hear us from inside their graves but we can't. They await our dua'as, especially when we visit them. But all respect and human behaviour is lost if we treat the visit to the grave as a festive and joyous occassion. Imagine how our grandmothers/fathers mother/father reacts when they hear us talking loudly and knowing the type of behaviour we potray when visiting them.

From a talk i heard from an ustaz, he mentioned that whoever dares createn immoralities / sins on the morning of Eidulfitr, he/she will do the same thing on the Day of Judgement at Mahsyar where everyone is standing in front of Allah and when everyone is panicking and chaotic, thinking about their fate i.e. Heaven or Hell.

So here, i would like to ask for forgiveness from you ladies and gentlemen if i had said anything wrong or hurt anyone in any ways. May Allah forgive me and my sins, and everyone else's too. AMIN.

If there's any error, I'm open for rectification. None is perfect as perfection only belongs to Allah (God Almighty). All good things come from Allah and all the bad things are from my side and the side of Shaiytan the accursed.

P.S. For muslim readers, i would like a request for you to recite Surah Al-Fatehah and niat towards Allahyarhamha Hajjah Ashia binte Allapitchay, 77, who had returned to Rahmatullah on 28 Ramadhan 1429 (28 September 2008), at 4.15pm. May Allah bless her soul, Amin. Thank you.